Marine Electronics

This article is about my experiences of international and inter-racial dating. It is simply an account of what I have seen and experienced myself over the course of my life so far, although at 55 years old, I am nearer the end of it than the beginning. It is my advice on handling an international or inter-racial relationship.

It all began at an early age when I was in infant school at seven. There was a Filipina girl in our class and I could not take my eyes off her, although I probably did not know much about it then. We parted at eight when they moved closer to another school and I never saw her again.

My next meeting with a foreign girl, was the mademoiselle junior teacher at school and I was convinced that I would marry a French country girl when I grew up. That passed when the German assistant arrived.

When I was fourteen, I went on a school cruise to Leningrad and there was a group of exchange students going home to Sweden on the same ship. I went out with one of them for roughly a week and first realized the problems that can come from international dating. There was a minor language barrier, but it was fun getting over that. The real difficulty came, because I had predetermined ideas of what Swedish girls were like, most likely instilled in me after years of silly 'Carry On' films.

At sixteen, I went to Germany to work for the summer and I found it very easy to get on with the German girls, although they were shyer that I was expecting too. Also an outlook I owed to silly Health and Efficiency 'sex films'.

After finishing university, I moved to The Netherlands to live. It was the seventies and Dutch girls were great. However, I made friends with male British colleagues first and soon saw some of the issues that can come from an international relationship. Most of the men I knew were typical Brits and made absolutely no attempt to learn Dutch at all. Surprisingly, many Dutch people could not speak English either, especially the parents.

This lead to a surprising number of stressful moments in a week and that put a lot of strain on my friends' relationships. It is so easy to start name-calling when you are angry and it is the worst thing you can do. The Dutch girlfriend or her parents or friends would be called 'a stupid cheese eater' or something equally foolish and the relationship was over or in trouble for days. I do not remember what the Dutch called us.

I promised myself there and then never to get serious about a foreign girl because the arguments were just too much. Food was never a problem. Culture was not much of a problem, although where I was in southern Netherlands, most people were Catholic and I am not. This did perplex some parents but not me. Travelling was always going to be the drawback. Do you live by her parents or yours? In particular when children start arriving. Most countries have stronger family ties than Britain.

Then, at 50, having never been married, I went to Thailand, where I met my wife-to-be. Asian culture is very different from British or even European society and it is a real shock to both parties. Anyway, five years into our relationship and we are still fine. I recollect the reasons I gave myself for not marrying abroad when in The Netherlands and I was incorrect, but not much.

If you are going to enter into an international or even inter-racial relationship, you had better learn how to control your anger. It is the most important advice you will ever get. Being understanding of other points of view is important too, but not getting angry is more important. Furthermore, you must try to learn something about your partner's land, background and language, otherwise you cannot join in any discussion your partner may have with someone who does know a bit about it.

I have never seen religion be a hindrance ever, except in an argument. My wife is Buddhist and I am not. We chat about it, but there is never any tension. Food, again I have never seen a problem in this field. Clothing, again no problem in my life. If you get into an international or inter-racial relationship, keep your temper, do not shout, do not get angry and talk things out calmly.

Inter-Racial Relationships are in great demand! See who is looking for you at Dating The Real Way

Do you use bread machine mixes when you want to make yeast bread in your automated bread-making machine? If you do, why do you? Because it's easier? It is so simple to make gourmet bread quickly from easy-to-follow bread recipes and so much more variable too. If you use bread machine mixes you are limited to the bread machine mixes there are in the shops " no matter how many of them there are there.

On the other hand, a good bread machine recipe book is infinitely more flexible than bread machine mixes. A good bread machine cookbook might give you 150 or so recipes originating from several countries, but it will also inspire you to adapt those recipes, encouraging you to be creative and invent your own style of bread.

Bread machine mixes are really quite restricting and you have no control over what goes into the bread machine mix either: preservatives, colouring, MSG, salt or who knows what. Yes, it says on the label, but you cant take them out, if you limit yourself to bread machine mixes.

Making bread is really quite easy. Or to put it correctly, the ingredients to making bread are really quite simple. To bake a very basic loaf of bread, you only need: flour, water, yeast, sugar, salt and fat or oil. The difficult part about making bread is the mixing. It can take four hours to mix the bread making ingredients together; to wait for it to rise; to knead it; wait for it to prove; knead it again and bake it.

But, if you have a bread making machine you can automate the hard bread mixing, proving, kneading cycle and if you have a bread-making recipe book you will be provided with numerous recipes to guide and inspire you.

What could be more simple? You consult the bread-making machine recipe book for an tasty recipe; you put the everyday ingredients into the bread mixing bowl of the bread machine and you put the yeast into a time-release box on the top of the bread machine; set the timer and just go about your daily life or even go to sleep!

The bread making machine will mix the ingredients and check the timer. My bread-making machine has a sixteen-hour timer. So, if you want your gourmet, yeast bread ready for 6:30 AM, the bread-making machine will mix the flour, water, salt oil and sugar immediately, add the yeast at say, 4 AM, knead, prove and bake the bread and ring a bell at 6:30 to announce that your gourmet food is ready.

Except that you won't need the alarm to let you know that. The aroma of freshly-baked bread will permeate your house and you will be very much aware of the fact that your bread making machine is just about ready to serve one of the best loaves of bread you've ever had in your life! And you will never ever look for bread machine mixes again. You'll be overflowing with ideas for your own bread machine mixes in no time at all and you'll be giving bread away as presents so that you can try out your next very own bread machine mixture.

Bread machine mixes: we don't need 'em?

Are bread machine mixes useful? Yes, some of them are, but the problem with all bread machine mixes is that they place limitations on your choice and do not encourage your creative talents. That may sound odd, but think about it for a minute. If you rely on bread machine mixes you can only make the bread for which you can buy a bread machine mix and you can only tip the bread machine mix into the bowl and switch the bread making machine on. You are not likely to alter the bread machine mix for fear that it won't work.

What is the alternative? Well, the old-fashioned cookbook, of course! Not any old cookbook, but a specialized bread making machine recipe book. Bread making is a very simple, but rather tedious process. The ingredients are everyday, household items: water, flour, yeast, salt, sugar and oil. You already have those items in your cupboard with the possible exception of the yeast, which can be bought everywhere at low cost.

And I'm sure you already know what happens when you cook following a recipe, don't you? You have already read the recipe through and you know you have everything in the cupboard, but when the recipe requires, let's say, lemon peel, you open the cupboard door and see that you don't have any lemons - but you do have orangess! Oh, well you think, oranges'll do. You make do. You try things out. And that means that you are developing your talent and creativity. Bread making mixes will not do that for you.

A good bread making machine recipe book will have something over 100 recipes originating from a number of different countries and you will get really enthusiastic about experimenting with the different ones. Have you ever tasted Welsh bread - Bara Brith? Or Amish bread? Jalapeno bread or banana bread? Cranberry bread is lovely too, but one of my all time favourites is Brazil Nut Bread - absolutely scrumptious.

The fact is that you may not find recipes for all these breads in one cookbook, but if you have a reference point, like a bread recipe cookbook, you can |begin|start off by using previously tried and tested gourmet bread recipes and gradually invent your own - ofttimes out of necessity.

I once made a fantastic loaf by adding all the left-over vegetables from my Sunday lunch. It was lovely, but I could never quite reproduce it, because I did not write down the weights and measures. I could only remember that it had green beans, potatoes and sweet corn in it!

Bread machine mixes will never ever provide that, will they? Furthermore, bread machine mixes are fairly expensive compared to the cost of 10 pounds of flour. I usually vary the ingredients too: honey instead of sugar, milk instead of water, olive oil or butter instead of just corn oil. Rock salt instead of sea salt or visa versa. I'm sure you see what I mean.

Bread machine mixes are limited and limiting. A bread making machine is a great way to use up leftovers. I have even put meat and fruit in my gourmet bread. My principle is: if it'll go in a sandwich it'll go in the dough - like an Indian stuffed paratha or stuffed naan bread.

Save your money by not buying bread machine mixes and be creative with a bread machine recipes cookbook.