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Coital Headaches

April 25th, 2011

Although orgasm is usually a pleasurable and positive activity for most people, it can become painful for those who find that it triggers coital headaches. For these people, sexual activity can actually cause these coital headache attacks.

Technically, a headache, or cephalalgia, is a symptom of a number of different conditions of the head and sometimes the neck too. They can be classified into two main categories: primary or idiopathic, and symptomatic, although there are other ways of classifying them too; for example by severity.

Basically, primary headaches have a known or unknown reason, whereas symptomatic headaches are often the result of trauma. Primary headaches include amongst others: migraine, tension headaches, cluster headaches and coital headaches.

Coital headaches, also called coital cephalalgia or sexual headaches, is a rare, but painful form of headache that starts in the nape of the neck during sexual intercourse, but before climax. It can occur in all conditions where climax is the expected result. The pain can move to behind the eyes and can then be even more severe. Typically the pain will last from a few minutes to an hour or so, but it has been known to last for days in the worst cases.

It is surprising to many to discover that men are three times more likely to experience coital headaches than women and the age groups most at risk are those between 20 and 25 and 30 and 44. Doctors do not really knows why this should be. Coital headaches afflict about one percent of the population, although this number could be much higher because of people being embarrassed to talk about it.

Moreover, coital headaches are benign, which means that they have no long-term ill effects, as far as we know. It seems that people taking sexual stimulants, like Cialis, are about 10% more at risk to a coital headache. In fact, besides the obvious, temporary pain, the worst effects of coital headaches are varying degrees of dizziness, confusion and stiffness of neck.

However, it is still worth seeing a doctor though, especially in the early cases, just to exclude the more serious causes of headaches, such as brain tumours and blood clots. However, the doctor can do rather little to help by way of treatment. He may suggest a complete abstention from any kind of sexual activity for a period ranging from days to weeks or he may suggest trying taking medication some time before sexual foreplay commences.

A few of the headache medicines that may be taken are indomethacin, imitrex, zomig and propranolol, although if the headaches continue, your doctor may recommend some other preventive medicines to be taken on a daily basis. Sufferers of frequent coital headaches may also obtain a positive response to migraine preventive medicines, such as beta blockers or verapamil. Non-steroidal anti inflammatory drugs (NSAIDS) such as ibuprofen may similarly be helpful. Coital headaches and migraines are also more likely to occur if the person is in poor physical shape.

Nevertheless, the cure for coital headaches for a lot of people can be as simple as bringing your weight up or down to the normal weight for your size. Coital headaches can also be treated in some sufferers by an increased level of exercise, although this may stimulate exertion headaches in some people.

The good news is though that most headaches related to sex are not serious in nature. In fact, various studies actually suggest that orgasm can relieve headaches and migraine in some cases. This implies that for some adults, refusing sex may actually be the reason that delays headache treatment.

If you suffer from migraine or headaches, you ought to definitely visit our website at Stopping Headaches.

International And Inter-racial Dating

January 8th, 2010

This article is about my experiences of international and inter-racial dating. It is simply an account of what I have seen and experienced myself over the course of my life so far, although at 55 years old, I am nearer the end of it than the beginning. It is my advice on handling an international or inter-racial relationship.

It all began at an early age when I was in infant school at seven. There was a Filipina girl in our class and I could not take my eyes off her, although I probably did not know much about it then. We parted at eight when they moved closer to another school and I never saw her again.

My next meeting with a foreign girl, was the mademoiselle junior teacher at school and I was convinced that I would marry a French country girl when I grew up. That passed when the German assistant arrived.

When I was fourteen, I went on a school cruise to Leningrad and there was a group of exchange students going home to Sweden on the same ship. I went out with one of them for roughly a week and first realized the problems that can come from international dating. There was a minor language barrier, but it was fun getting over that. The real difficulty came, because I had predetermined ideas of what Swedish girls were like, most likely instilled in me after years of silly 'Carry On' films.

At sixteen, I went to Germany to work for the summer and I found it very easy to get on with the German girls, although they were shyer that I was expecting too. Also an outlook I owed to silly Health and Efficiency 'sex films'.

After finishing university, I moved to The Netherlands to live. It was the seventies and Dutch girls were great. However, I made friends with male British colleagues first and soon saw some of the issues that can come from an international relationship. Most of the men I knew were typical Brits and made absolutely no attempt to learn Dutch at all. Surprisingly, many Dutch people could not speak English either, especially the parents.

This lead to a surprising number of stressful moments in a week and that put a lot of strain on my friends' relationships. It is so easy to start name-calling when you are angry and it is the worst thing you can do. The Dutch girlfriend or her parents or friends would be called 'a stupid cheese eater' or something equally foolish and the relationship was over or in trouble for days. I do not remember what the Dutch called us.

I promised myself there and then never to get serious about a foreign girl because the arguments were just too much. Food was never a problem. Culture was not much of a problem, although where I was in southern Netherlands, most people were Catholic and I am not. This did perplex some parents but not me. Travelling was always going to be the drawback. Do you live by her parents or yours? In particular when children start arriving. Most countries have stronger family ties than Britain.

Then, at 50, having never been married, I went to Thailand, where I met my wife-to-be. Asian culture is very different from British or even European society and it is a real shock to both parties. Anyway, five years into our relationship and we are still fine. I recollect the reasons I gave myself for not marrying abroad when in The Netherlands and I was incorrect, but not much.

If you are going to enter into an international or even inter-racial relationship, you had better learn how to control your anger. It is the most important advice you will ever get. Being understanding of other points of view is important too, but not getting angry is more important. Furthermore, you must try to learn something about your partner's land, background and language, otherwise you cannot join in any discussion your partner may have with someone who does know a bit about it.

I have never seen religion be a hindrance ever, except in an argument. My wife is Buddhist and I am not. We chat about it, but there is never any tension. Food, again I have never seen a problem in this field. Clothing, again no problem in my life. If you get into an international or inter-racial relationship, keep your temper, do not shout, do not get angry and talk things out calmly.

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The First Date

October 13th, 2009

When you go on a date with someone there are certain things you should or should not do and certain ways you should behave. Of course you want the person to get to know you, so, first off, you oughtn't attempt to be someone that you are not.

When you go out on a date you ought to look clean and dress smartly. This will demonstrate to the other person, not only that you care about your appearance, but that you also think about about what they think about you. After all, If you don't care about what the other person thinks, then you probably shouldn't be going out on a date with them in the first place, should you?

This pointer really depends on the person you are taking out. It applies more to a man dating a woman, obviously, but some women don't like having doors opened for them either. You will have to play it by ear. I think that the best guidance I can give, is that you should remember to open the car doors and all doors for that matter (except the washroom door) for your date, unless you are told or you sense otherwise.

A lot of younger women might say they wouldn't judge a man by his door-opening behavior, but I think it does form a beneficial part of the overall picture she will be building up of you. However, if the woman you are going out with is an obvious feminist, then you had better let her open the doors for herself - just let her get on with it or it might trouble her. She might also want to pay for her own meal, but that's not a bad thing is it?

Make sure that you on time. Be there when you say you will be there to pick her up and be ready to pay for the entire date. It may not come to that, she may buy a drink or two, but you can't rely on it, so slip a credit card in your wallet too. Better safe than sorry and you don't want to have walk home., would you?

So, that brings us conveniently to the next point, which is, don't take your date somewhere you cannot pay for because you never want to find yourself asking your date for a loan to pay the bill, unless you don't want to see her again.

Another part of dating etiquette also relates to not making the other person feel as if they are on an interview. It is all too common for people on a date to ask too many questions because they want to get to know the other person quickly. However, how would you feel, if you were asked twenty questions between every course or drink? It is well-intentioned, but annoying. It is far better to have, say, half-a-dozen interesting, non-personal questions that you can discuss at more length.

If you push them too far, if you get too personal too quickly, you could scare them off. Just try to create a comfortable atmosphere by being considerate and yourself.

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Coital Headaches

July 27th, 2009

Orgasm is usually a pleasurable and positive activity for most people, however it can be painful for those who discover that it triggers coital headaches. For sufferers, sexual activity of any kind can result in coital headache attacks.

Medically speaking, a headache, or cephalalgia, is a symptom of a number of different conditions of the head and sometimes the neck too. They can be classified into two main categories: primary or idiopathic, and symptomatic, although there are other ways of grouping them too; for example by severity or by area.

Basically, primary headaches have a known or unknown reason, whereas symptomatic headaches are usually the result of trauma. Primary headaches include amongst others: migraine, tension headaches, cluster headaches and coital headaches.

Coital headaches, also called coital cephalalgia or sexual headaches, is a rare, but severe form of headache that starts in the nape of the neck during sexual intercourse, but before climax. It can occur in all conditions where climax is the expected result. The pain can move to behind the eyes and can then become even more severe. Typically the pain will last from a few minutes to an hour or so, but it has been known to last for days in extreme cases.

Men are three times more prone to coital headaches than women and the age groups most at risk are those between 20 and 25 and 30 and 44. Nobody really understands why this should be. Coital headaches affect about one percent of the population, although this figure could be a lot higher because of people being embarrassed to talk about it.

Coital headaches are benign, meaning that they cause no long-term ill effects, as far as we know. It seems that people taking sexual stimulants, like Viagara, are about 10% more at risk to a bout of coital headache. In fact, besides the obvious, temporary pain, the worst effects of coital headaches are differing degrees of dizziness, confusion and stiffness of neck.

However, it is still worth while seeing a doctor though, especially in the early cases, just to exclude the more severe reasons for headaches, such as brain tumours and blood clots. However, the doctor can do very little to help by way of cure. He may recommend a complete abstention from any form of sexual practice for a period varying from days to weeks or he may suggest trying taking medication a short time before sexual foreplay begins.

Some of the headache medications that can be used are indomethacin, imitrex, zomig and propranolol, although if the headaches continue, your doctor could suggest daily preventive medication. People suffering from frequent coital headaches may obtain a positive response to migraine preventive medications, such as beta blockers or verapamil. Non-steroidal anti inflammatory drugs (NSAIDS) such as ibuprofen may also be helpful. Coital headaches and migraines are also more likely to occur if a person is in poor physical health.

Nevertheless, the treatment for coital headaches for many people can be as simple as adjusting your weight up or down to the normal weight for your size. Coital headaches can also be treated in some sufferers by an increased level of exercise, although this could stimulate exertion headaches in some cases.

The good news is though that most headaches related to sex are not serious in nature. In deed, different studies actually suggest that orgasm can relieve headaches and migraine in some cases. This means that for some adults, refusing sex may actually be the reason that delays headache treatment.

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Gay Unions

July 13th, 2009

The debate about gay marriages has been a very hot political subject for many years and because it is such a hot topic, the number of places that have come out publicly either for or against the subject is not surprising. While there are few states which allow gay or same-sex marriage, there are a few that are more liberal, allowing almost equal rights. Massachusetts is currently the only state in the United States that allows same-sex marriages. The state of Rhode Island is generous enough to recognize as legal, any same-sex marriage that is performed in Massachusetts, which is a major victory according to many same-sex supporters.

The elections of recent years have seen this as a very hot topic and with the White House stressing openly that marriage can only involve a man and a woman, not same-sexes, many states have been very reluctant to sanction same-sex marriages. However, a few states have allowed same-sex civil unions, which are very similar to marriage.

Those states are, in alphabetical order: California, Connecticut, Hawaii, Maine, New Jersey, and Vermont. The District of Columbia also recognizes same-sex unions and the Governor of New Hampshire has promised openly that he will soon sign a bill permitting same-sex unions. This is a major advance for the supporters of the movement.

Although many states have not given the go-ahead to the topic of same-sex marriage, there are states which are sitting around discussing the subject. Many couples who are struggling for their rights have argued that there is just no difference in the way they run their households compared to their heterosexual counterparts. They have also stated that while they may be with a partner who is the same sex as them, they do still love their partner and should have the legal right to marry them too.

This has always been a contentious topic, and probably will continue to be a contentious topic for many years to come. While the issues rage within the states and at the national level, it will probably be quite a long time before the gay and lesbian rights groups are able to really declare a triumph for their cause. Nevertheless, there is some solace to be taken in the small victories as they occur, and another Governor of a state being willing to permit a civil union is at least a move in the direction of triumph.

However, the fact remains that the views of the individual states tend to reflect the views of the President. With a President in office who is a staunch opponent of same-sex marriage as well as civil union, it is unlikely to allow much room for many triumphs until a more accommodating, or rather liberal, President is in the White House. Time will tell what President Obama's views are.

Once the bill has passed through all the legal channels of the state, it can go into effect as early as the next year, much to the joy of the New Hampshire residents, who have been waiting patiently. Each state that gives this right to its residents opens the door a little more to other states to become more tolerant. Finally, this paves the way for America to join the bulk of Europe in recognizing the legal inequalities of straight and gay couples nationwide.

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